Tag: love

Never eat pot chocolate on a third date, and other lessons about love.

Jacqueline Alnes brings us eight stories on love in its many-splendored guises.

My on-again, off-again love affair with Engelbert Humperdinck.

A declaration of dependence, excerpted from Briallen Hopper’s new essay collection.

“All you needed to do,” Springsteen says, “was to risk being your true self.” We ignore our demons at our peril.

Insomnia is not just a state of sleeplessness, a matter of negatives. It involves the active pursuit of sleep. It is a state of longing.

“It is so essential to morale that army and ­navy officers of the highest rank list mail almost on a level with munitions and food.”

Allie Zenwirth falls in love within the confines of an all-male Chasidic school.

“Play like a man, look like a lady.” At Narratively, Britni de la Cretaz looks at the history of lesbianism in early pro women’s baseball and at the beautiful love stories that the movie “A League of Their Own” chose to ignore.

When you live alongside anything for a long time — any person, any character, any narrative structure, any screen flicker — you become a part of it and it becomes a part of you.

In this intimate and moving essay, Gabrielle Bellot decides she needs to stop allowing others to define her.

Elizabeth Flock on the years she spent studying other people’s marriages in Mumbai.

Essayist Leslie Jamison visits Zagreb’s Museum of Broken Relationships.

Dating after a Big Love ends never feels quite right. What do big loves leave us with, and what do they take?

Diana Spechler recalls fleeing her life in New York City for a new one with a painter in his village in central Mexico.

“Once, when I was sick for a long time and too weak to eat, she chewed my food for me and put the small pieces in my mouth to swallow.”

Veteran music journalist Michael Gonzales reflects on a long love affair and Prince’s deep, varied catalogue of hits.

New technology and information access in the Philippines is shifting the online-dating power dynamic from Western men to Filipina women.

Alexander Chee didn’t realize that his boyfriend, M., was pretending to be someone content to be monogamous.

Noah Cho ruminates on why his blond, all-American mother chose his “barely bilingual” Korean father.

“Under the influence of Leonard Cohen’s words, Germaine Greer’s polemic, and [Anais] Nin’s lies, I believed that sexual rapture was the key to connection through chaos.”

BuzzFeed has a touching, intimate excerpt of Insomniac City: New York, Oliver and Me, Bill Hayes’s memoir of his relationship with late neuroscientist and author Oliver Sacks. 10-13-16 I, soaking in the bath, O on the toilet, talking, talking about what he’s been thinking and writing — short personal pieces, for a memoir perhaps. He […]

Breaking up is hard to do.

At Lenny, read an excerpt of Ayelet Waldman’s memoir of LSD microdosing, A Really Good Day.

Fresh from a go-nowhere relationship, Gemma Sieff writes an engrossing personal essay in Harper’s about her passing encounters with a series of men she met on Tinder.

Joe Berkowitz has been writing a series for the Awl about modern relationships, and his final installment was published this week.

[Ted] Gioia shows that song lyrics about love, sex, marriage, and fertility can be traced all the way back to the ancient Egyptians and Sumerians, and that once Jewish and Christian religious leaders came to terms with the iron determination of their own people to write and sing about romantic love, it quickly emerged as […]

Orlando has long had a towering, and very much deserved, reputation in the LGBT community; it was published the same year Radclyffe Hall’s controversial The Well of Loneliness, depicting lesbianism as a tragic curse, became a bestseller. Woolf’s creation of a figure who effortlessly changes sex casually upends any notion that biological sex is related […]

“Indians don’t ‘fall,’ Debie. We don’t marry by accident. We choose.”

A central agony in these books is alienation—not only the pain of abuse, or heartbreak, or evaporation, but the pain of having your pain appropriated. The books themselves reclaim the hurt for their authors, and whatever their literary merit, they offer at least some catharsis for the reader, who can always relate. Rock songs make […]