“In America, to be poor, or black, or fat, or trans, or Native, or old, or disabled, or undocumented, among other things, is usually to have become acquainted with unwantedness,” writes Jil Tolentino. But none of these people ever felt that because they were outside the sexual marketplace, they were ever owed sex. Incels are the result of a violent misogyny, one that has little to do with sex and almost everything to do with power.