The following writers straddle the line between explanation and expression. Here is my piece. It is personal.
Lauren Morelli’s piece especially touched me. An ex-boyfriend once told me he consulted with his pastor and his wife to see if he should be concerned; would my “healthy fascination with bisexuality” (his words, which I don’t necessarily hate or disagree with) be a deterrent to a serious relationship? The pastor’s wife told him that I should be completely sure I wouldn’t leave him for a woman, should we get married (P.S. we were both 22). These people had never met me, but they were trying to articulate my complex relationship with myself and the people I love. At the time, I brushed that pain aside; now I am hurt and angry. I have never written about this before, but the bravery of Lauren Morelli’s piece dares me to. It dares all of us to face our lives with rugged honesty.
These pieces aren’t about me, though—they are about profound, unique experiences. But they are opportunities to put names with faces, to make the abstract real, and what is more important than that?
1. “While Writing for ‘Orange is the New Black,’ I Realized I Am Gay.” (Lauren Morelli, PolicyMic, May 2014)
2. “Claudia is Intersex, Let’s Talk About It.” (Claudia, Autostraddle, February 2013)
3. “Portraits of Genderqueer Nation.” (Elizabeth Kulze, Vocativ, May 2014)
4. “Today is a Genderqueer Dandy Day: On Fluidity.” (Jade Sylvan, The Toast, May 2014)
5. “The First Time I Fell in Love Was Kinda Gay.” (Sarah Barness, HuffPost Gay Voices, February 2014)
Photo: Orange Is the New Black