Minda Honey

“Growing up, my mother taught us three girls how to read our father’s moods like the weather, how to discern their ever-shifting winds. How to carve out a childhood at the base of an active volcano. How to survive the flash flood that was my father’s temper, rage like water rising fast. He’d yell, he’d berate, he’d snarl. He’d snatch sentences from our mouths before we could finish them and twist them against us. This was at home. This was at school. This was without notice.”

In the fourth installment of her series on #Dating_While_Woke, Minda Honey interrogates her sexuality and questions the future of straight-by-default.

In the third installment of Minda Honey’s #Dating_While_Woke series, an invitation to appear in a PSA prompts her to reflect on the responsibilities of safe sex, and her imperfect past.

In the second installment of her series on dating while woke, Minda Honey explores the long unraveling of a #MeToo moment in the wake of cultural upheaval.

Minda Honey’s first in an original Longreads series on dating as a black woman in these times. Here, she assesses the deliberate choices and external factors affecting her romantic life.

While visiting national parks to detox from the oppressive whiteness of the MFA experience, Minda Honey is reminded the only places to retreat from whiteness in this country are the spaces women of color hold for each other.