Everybody has a first day on the job and sometimes that day doesn’t go as planned. Psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb recounts the first session she conducted as a trainee therapist, with a woman who sobbed uncontrollably during their allotted hour.
“We’re confusing our own needs with our kids’ needs and calling it good parenting,” Blume said, letting out a sigh. I asked him why he sighed. (This is what happens when two therapists have a conversation.) “It’s sad to watch,” he explained. “I can’t tell you how often I have to say to parents that they’re putting too much emphasis on their kids’ feelings because of their own issues. If a therapist is telling you to pay less attention to your kid’s feelings, you know something has gotten way of out of whack.”